Stop fighting against the wave, surf on it!

Don’t get drained by many-voiced teams or by diffi­cult clients. Interact differ­ently and use the inter­ac­tions to create fresh solutions. 

What is needed:

Shift The Perspective:

Diffe­rences are natural. Diver­sity means fresh ideas, stops stagna­tion and is the basis of progress. The purpose of conflict is to create from what is there. Go into explore mode, stay curious and listen. Diffe­rences can create momentum and create surpri­sing speed for the new.

Go For Aspira­tions Behind Positions:

Positions are often polar and run a high risk of ending in a win-lose-game. The aspira­tions behind conflicts are the motivating parts. From there strugg­ling against can shift into strugg­ling for. Be inclu­sive with aspira­tions creates engage­ment. Be compas­sio­nate and accoun­table, connec­ting and setting a reliable frame.

Use The Language Of The Other Person:

To connect with the other person, the How people say something is as important as What they say! By using the percep­tual language of people you affect and connect better and deesca­late stress reaction. Go with the flow of what is in the space is like surfing the wave!

Curious about how to surf the wave in diffi­cult conversations?

Leading Out Of Drama® with the concept of compas­sio­nate accoun­ta­bi­lity,
Process Commu­ni­ca­tion Model® with the concept of agile commu­ni­ca­tion and
Positive Intel­li­gence® with the concept of presence and mental strength
are proven frame­works for positive conflict and successful communication!

Clear, calm, laser-focused in a job interview

As career coach I am often confronted with the question of how you can be and stay your authentic and clear self in a job inter­view, be impactful in the middle of a poten­ti­ally stressful situa­tion, facing both chance and risk of denial.

You hold two keys to success in your hands!

Follow a clear-cut process to step up fully with your perso­na­lity and exper­tise and activate your mental strength to be be resilient under stress.

Key 1The process part is a path of explo­ra­tion, analysis and focus ahead of the inter­view. It’s about you, your passion and your USP for the market and the specific job in front of you. There are 3 leading questions:
What is your „I want …“, your values and goals?
What is your „I can …“ – your exper­tise and your success stories?
What is your „hitpoint and sweet spot …“ – your why this job and why this company?

This clarity gives you confi­dence and impact in how you step up and it makes you belie­vable having matching stories and successes to tell.

Key 2Your mental strength is to step up with clarity and calmness in the challen­ging context of a job inter­view and recover quickly when you are hijacked by stress

Does any of the follo­wing scenario and self-sabota­ging mindchatter sound familiar?
Before the inter­view: “I want this job so much. I am afraid I am blocked tomorrow and will forget what I want to say.” “If I lose, I will be in trouble. I need this job so much.“ „Am I good enough?” “What if they ask why I have left my old job. I am afraid my emotions come up again.”
During the inter­view: “This HR-execu­tive looks so puzzled. I seem to have given the wrong answer.” “I am so nervous, my voice trembles.” “Shit, I forgot an important info.” “I hear myself speaking and I don’t seem to come to the point.” “I am tense and not my usual self.”

If you are in that mindset of negative emotions you are in the stress part of your brain and have no access to your full poten­tial, your creati­vity, clarity and to calm laser-focused action.

What now!

I recom­mend highly effec­tive exercises to both activate your mental fitness muscle before the event and to recover quickly in case of stress hijacking during the event. These tools are from Positive Intel­li­gence by Shirzad Chamine.

  • Preempt your saboteurs:
    Antici­pate the inter­view and your possible self-sabota­ging reaction; Pause and breathe. Then imagine yourself reacting calm and clear and stepping up your best self.
    What is fasci­na­ting: our brain does not diffe­ren­tiate between real and imagined. When you imagine the positive process, the same neuro-circuitry pathway is activated as during a real success experience.
  • Activate your mental fitness muscle:
    This can be used before the situa­tion to gain energy and focus and in the stress situa­tion to quickly calm down and recover.
    What is fasci­na­ting: the little exercises, called PQ reps, only take 10 seconds each and they don’t need a quiet solitary place to practice. Do it in the middle of the hustle-bustle of life and if needed during a stress hijacking:
    The secret is to actively focus on your sensa­tions. By that you stop your mind jumping around and instead focus on one physical sense. You can feel the effect immedia­tely. If in that moment you were under a MRI you would also get the scien­tific proof that your stress center is quieted down and your sage creative part of the brain is activated.

Here are two of many varia­tions you can do

  • PQ rep using your sense of touch
    finger-printTouch one device (pen, paper, coffee cup, glass of water) in front of you and really feel the tempe­ra­ture, texture and sensa­tions on your finger tips. Maybe move your finger tips slowly so you can feel more sensations.
    Great Job!
  • PQ rep using breath
    breathingTake a couple of deep breaths. Now let your breath settle into its normal mode. Feel the rising and falling of your chest and stomach with each breath. Notice the tempe­ra­ture of air as it enters your nostrils and the tempe­ra­ture of air as it exits your nostrils.
    Great job!

If you do PQ reps regularly during the day, you can conti­nously build up your mental muscle.


Explore further possi­bi­li­ties with Mental Fitness – how to sustain­ably train and build up your mental strength, to be resilient facing any challenges and setbacks and recover quicker – for more click here

You have questions around impactful job inter­views and you want to learn more about a successful job shift:

New Career 50plus

(New) Career with 50plus
Your goal – your path – your success

Fresh impetus for a successful job change
- the right job, not just any job!

You are in the middle of your profes­sional life and in the process of a job change. Perhaps one of the follo­wing scena­rios applies to you: You are wonde­ring what the oppor­tu­ni­ties for 50plus are in the job market. You are exempt or laid off and are still hanging on to your previous company with very mixed feelings. You are wonde­ring where your poten­tial lies for your next career move. You want to take the chance now for a new phase in your profes­sional bio and are unsure how exempt and liberated you may think and plan in the context of your personal commit­ments. You are successful and yet unful­filled in your job and stuck in your current career. You are in a transi­tion process full of question marks about what is the right path strate­gi­cally and perso­nally right now. Maybe your experi­ence is a mix of all this and more!

The path to a successful job change starts with you – with your goals, with your exper­tise and experi­ence, with your successes and with your perso­na­lity! Your passion and your very indivi­dual usp, the added value you create are decisive. Where this meets the market is the key to success. In order to be effec­tive with all you have and to be at your best, one key compe­tency is funda­mental – your mental strength.  Much like an athlete in compe­ti­tion, it is crucial that you (can) act with clarity, calm and presence in the challen­ging context of a job transi­tion with all its uncer­tainty and also indivi­dual setbacks, or that you can quickly regain calmness and focus in any stressful situa­tion. This also means not being driven and deter­mined by frustra­tion, disap­point­ment or anger looking back into the past or by insecu­rity, self-doubt or nervous­ness looking ahead into the future.  Your mental strength and a positive basic attitude deter­mine your well-being and your perfor­mance and, quite decisi­vely, your impact on others!

Career Coaching für Ihren Erfolg!

  • Clarity and security for your profes­sional goal, develo­p­ment of your USP and profes­sio­na­lism in your appearance
  • Mental strength for dealing produc­tively with challenges and setbacks
  • Purpo­seful and target-oriented appli­ca­tion processes, sustainable networ­king and impactful interviews
  • Decision for the new job and successful onboarding

Indivi­dual – consis­tent – resonant

  • Career Coach and PQ Mental Fitness Coach
  • Long-term corpo­rate career as a manager
  • Broad industry experi­ence as trainer and coach, with a focus on automo­tive, mecha­nical and plant enginee­ring, medical techno­logy and IT
  • Own transi­tion experi­ence with 50plus into a new career, after 20 years in manage­ment starting self-employ­ment and building up my own business

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““Uta Nachbaur has always motivated me and given me the right advice. Although my search took longer than I had hoped, Uta Nachbaur never doubted me. This helped me to stick to my “dream position”. And it worked! Excel­lent support!”

(Execu­tive Research & Develo­p­ment, Automotive)

“Very profes­sional consul­ting! Uta Nachbaur supported my profes­sional reori­en­ta­tion in a targeted manner and with a lot of know-how and syste­ma­tics. Develo­ping and creating my short profile was very valuable – perso­nally as a motiva­tional boost and profes­sio­nally as a presen­ta­tion of my USP. A big praise to her; she moved me to my new future and made it possible to redis­cover my poten­tial and my perspectives..”

(Execu­tive Produc­tion, Mecha­nical Enginee­ring and Plant Construction)

“Training my mental fitness as part of the Career Coaching was great and absolutely amazing in its effect. Stimuli and reflec­tions in the minute range lead to constant and impres­sive effects! And the neuro­sci­en­tific basis is convin­cing. It has helped me massi­vely in my profes­sional reori­en­ta­tion and it is for me an asset for life – no matter what challenges come. It’s great how I can put a comple­tely diffe­rent focus on my day with these little PQ Rep tidbits: clear headed, laser-focused action.”

(Execu­tive Projects, Automotive)

“Very compe­tent consul­tant who was able to empathize with my situa­tion. She helped me deal with my experi­ence of separa­tion from my previous company and refocused me on the future. This was paramount to the success of my career reori­en­ta­tion. I always had a smile on my face after the coaching sessions. Consul­ta­tions were always infor­ma­tional and motiva­tional boosts at the same time! The commu­ni­ca­tion seminar and inter­view training were also very effec­tive and practical. The success in my job inter­views showed it!

(Execu­tive KAM, Telecommunication)

“The mix of goal coaching, support in creating profes­sional appli­ca­tion documents, inter­view training, and support in starting the new job was just perfect. Thank you!””

(Execu­tive Sales, IT)

Why does negative drag us down more than positive uplifts us?

colorful Vortex

And why is it so critical for us to have a minimum ratio of 3 to 1 positive versus negative?

If you are above this ratio you are uplifted by a vortex of positi­vity and if you are below it you are feeling conti­nu­ally dragged down by a vortex of negati­vity. Thank you Shirzad Chamine for compi­ling relevant research on this 3 to 1 ratio in your book “Positive Intel­li­gence” and adding your own studies of the PQ vortex for describing this energetic phenomenon.

What has evolu­tion to do with it?

Basically, our brain spirals on the negative as well as on the positive. The reason why our brain boosts the negative and why you need 3 positives to counteract 1 negative is that due to evolu­tion our brain holds on to and ampli­fies the negative far more than the positive. Being aware and remem­be­ring details of dange­rous animals was much more important for our ances­tors than remem­be­ring a beautiful flower.

What can we do to be overall more uplifted than dragged down?

We cannot change our circum­s­tances. What we can do is be aware and consciously shift our perspec­tive and outlook on life. This has a signi­fi­cant impact on our perfor­mance and well-being. As a conse­quence we are more calm, focused and curious and less anxious, hectic and stressed.

Make this a habit:

The minimum of 3/1 ratio should be maintained both inside and outside your mind – in the form of thoughts in your head and also extern­ally keeping a 3/1 ratio of positive to negative inter­ac­tions in relati­onships that matter to you. So pay atten­tion to when you have negative thoughts or emotions inside your head. These are moments when your mind feels stress, anxiety, anger, disap­point­ment, stress, blame, guilt, shame, self-doubt, regret and so on. These moments might happen in reaction to yourself, to others or to circum­s­tances. Maybe you are beating yourself up for a recent failure, or you are blaming your partner or colle­ague for not acting the way you want. Or maybe you feel helpless and angry because of events you cannot influence. When you notice that, counter that by comman­ding your mind to come up with at least 3 positives. They don’t have to be big or compli­cated things.

Are you open for a little exercise to train it?

Aim to 3/1 ratio in your mind:

Close your eyes.

Let’s think positive using perspec­tive. Bring to mind something that has been bothe­ring you.

Let’s think at least of a couple of possible gifts. First: to have the situa­tion not bother you as much, what strength do you need to grow. Maybe it’s about being more empathetic towards yourself or the other? So bringing compas­sion to yourself could be one gift.

Be curious about what you have learnt. How could that help you handle an even bigger chall­enge. What chall­enge might that be? Create a learning could be a second gift.

Can you think about a third possible gift? What else is crossing your mind, that you are grateful for? There are often so many gifts here and now, if you really think about it.

… Open your eyes when you are ready.

And you can do the same in your surrounding

Aim for 3/1 ratio in relationships:

It takes 3 positive inter­ac­tions to neutra­lize 1 negative interactions.

Think about it when you meet people. Sometime a smile, a positive word, a personal question or even small acknow­ledgments change a lot!

I hope this article was interes­ting for you. If you are interested to learn more about mental fitness and how to train it, feel free to contact me:

And if you want to know your own PQ score: do the free assess­ment:

The Author:

Dr. Uta Barbara Nachbaur an execu­tive and career coach and trainer, is specia­lized in leader­ship, mental fitness, commu­ni­ca­tion, conflict and inter­cul­tural navigation.


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Dr. Uta B. Nachbaur

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Mental Fitness

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Mental Fitness (PQ)  

Peak perfor­mance and inner peace in crises and challenges!

Mental fitness means facing all the diffe­rent challenges of life with a positive mindset and not with agita­tion and stress!

With Mental Fitness you will gain clarity, creati­vity, courage and strength of imple­men­ta­tion at every point in your life and approach diffi­cult situa­tions with focus, firmness and ease.

Mental fitness can be trained!

Like physical fitness, we can also train our mental fitness.

bunte HantelnJust as our physical fitness deter­mines whether we can only conquer short hills or mountains, the strength of our mental fitness deter­mines which challenges we can master calmly, clearly and creatively, in which crises we allow ourselves to be pressured by fear, anger and insecu­rity, and which stress inten­sity throws us comple­tely off course. We also know how important mental fitness is from the world of top athletes, who always train both physical and mental strength.

Mental Fitness Coaching and Training:

Insight and Mental MuscleYou will get a coach and compa­nion and the tools to come to creati­vity, self-confi­dence and self-deter­mined action with your perso­na­lity, with your goals, in your context, indepen­dent of the stress inten­sity of negative emotions, head cinema and reactive behavior.

The result

  • Peak perfor­mance
  • inner peace and well-being
  • healthy relati­onships

“Principle of hope” or science?

The Buch Cover - Positive Intelligencescien­tific basis for Mental Fitness is research from Positive Psycho­logy, Neuro­sci­ence, Cogni­tive Psycho­logy and Perfor­mance Science. Psycho­lo­gist Shirzad Chamine, lecturer in Positive Psycho­logy at Stanford Univer­sity has developed a model and validated it through over 500,000 parti­ci­pants in 50 count­ries, over 100 CEOs and top athletes. Result is an app-based 6‑week training program using PQ Reps to train 3 muscles for mental fitness that is physio­lo­gi­cally proven to impact relevant brain areas.

Insights on this can also be found in Shirzad Chamine’s book:

Your way to Mental Fitness:


Gain mental strength in 6 weeks!

How to face challenges, crises, diffi­cult relati­onships with a positive outlook, creati­vity and focus and gain peak perfor­mance and satis­fac­tion – in business, sports or private life.

Saboteurs3 steps, a 3‑fold mental muscle workout:

  • “Saboteur Inter­ceptor”: inter­rupt negative emotions and self-sabotage
  • “Sage Perspec­tive”: possi­bi­lity vision, empathy, curio­sity, creati­vity and clear focused action
  • “Self-Command”: consciously shifting from negative thought patterns to positive thinking

The Mental Fitness Basecamp – to help you control negative head rushes, recognize the oppor­tu­ni­ties in challenges, and respond to challenges effec­tively, clearly, and with focus.

The program is based on results of brain research that can be physio­lo­gi­cally proven. 6 weeks of inten­sive training lead to neural pathways being changed, uncon­scious reactive stress responses being reduced and creative present action being streng­thened in a way that can be proven physio­lo­gi­cally in the brain.

Brain Saboteurs Sage

How does it work?

The program combines inten­sive training, input and background from brain research with indivi­dual coaching to achieve personal goals

  • 90 minutes of 1:1 coaching on your personal goals and expec­ta­tions, as an indivi­dual “travel compa­nion” during Basecamp and on how to achieve your personal goals
  • Your PQ (Positive Intel­li­gence) assess­ment and your Saboteur assess­ment as an indivi­dual reflec­tion tool
  • 6‑week program for the targeted develo­p­ment of your mental strength
  • Weekly 1‑hour video: Input from Shirzad Chamine, who developed and evaluated PQ
  • App-based practical training: 5 minutes daily short exercises by Shirzad Chamine
  • Input: excerpt from Shirzad Chamine’s book, Positive Intel­li­gence (pdf provided)
  • Reflec­tion and Q&A: weekly pod meeting with other parti­ci­pants to deepen, led by me.

So where do we go from here?  Check here on this page for the dates of my next 6 weeks Basecamp
or get in contact with me!

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Saboteur Assess­ment

9 Ways of self-sabotage

PQ Score

Your Positive Intel­li­gence® Quotient

Dr. Uta B. Nachbaur

Dr. Uta B. Nachbaur
Execu­tive Coach – CPCC, CPQC, PCC

Mental Fitness Coach and Facili­tator
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